Dating in the closet
Being there for the person throughout their process is something that can prove invaluable in time.Social support, especially from a trustworthy partner can be a deal breaker in a healthy dating relationship or marriage down the road. Negative reactions from others in the early coming out process can turn someone off from further sharing their sexual orientation.
When he sees me at work, provided nobody is around, he acts like he's my boyfriend, I'm his everything! But when it comes down to having a deep conversation about our relationship, he says he's not ready for anything official.
But on the other hand you feel like a dirty secret that they’re ashamed of.
It can be very difficult to separate your relationship from the actual issue at hand, which is your partner’s hesitance to come out.
Since I've been around, he and his girl have been on and off and as you can just imagine... A big part of me just would like to end it, but a bigger part of me enjoys him next to me in bed. Kind regards, A Dear Romantic Roommate, Let me break this down first: You're madly in love with your best bud and now roommate. He's laid out the road map for you: He wants you, but he's not ready to come out.
And by keeping the girlfriend around, he's telling you that he's also not ready to give 100 percent to your relationship. He's trying to balance two relationships and come to grips with his sexuality at the same time, which is even more difficult.